When it comes to receiving feedback we automatically assume the worst. Feedback comes in all shapes and sizes, the positive and yes the negative too. And to grow professionally, feedback is an absolute must. To pay attention to the views and assessments of those around us is an important quality to possess. And in turn to have the wherewithal to receive, process and apply that valuable feedback. We all can’t do it. But we all hope to be able to receive feedback, positive or negative and take action to make the changes needed. How many times have you said to yourself “why didn’t someone tell me?”
While we’re all constantly getting and giving feedback. It can come is an assortment of ways. Verbally, or written, via actions or body language and everything else in between. And one thing I know for sure, at first, we all take it personally. But we don’t have to. Feedback is about making changes for the better and not hurting someone’s feelings.
It’s All about Helpful Feedback
First and foremost feedback is meant to be helpful. It’s imperative for a successful job, career and relationship. While the majority of us understand the advantages of getting advice and pointers. It’s never easy to receive feedback and not look at it as criticism. And really whether the feedback is negative or positive, it’s all important. It helps us to discover what’s working, what needs tweaking and where to make changes. And whether we know it or not we’re always receiving someone’s opinions, advice and yes criticism. So whenever possible why not learn from it and try not to take it too personally.
How to Receive Feedback
To make the most out of the views and opinions received, it’s important to remember these tips.
• Listen, always pay attention to what is being said
• Recognize the message, if you don’t have it repeated
• Don’t take it personally
• Never interrupt, even if you think you know what they’re about to say
• Evaluate the significance of the information, think it through before responding
• Be honest with yourself and look for the truths
• Try to never react angry or negatively
• Ask for the positives
• Ask for recommendations for growth and development
• Follow up on the feedback, after applying recommendations
• Always be open