I attended a wedding recently and I noticed that the wedding planning was done in the traditional style. I couldn’t help notice that most of the people in the wedding party were not able to relax and enjoy themselves because they had their “roles” to perform. That got me thinking, can wedding planning be done incorporating the traditional offerings while at the same time alter people’s duties when it’s obvious they’re not comfortable performing outside of their comfort level.
Wedding Planning – The Master of Ceremonies (“MC”)
Typically most wedding planning involves a MC whose job is to inform the guest of how the event will unfold, introduce the member of the wedding party and to provide some light stories of the bride and groom – all designed to entertain the guests while keeping the event on schedule. If there are unforeseen delays or incidents, the MC’s role is to fill the gaps until the timing is back on schedule. Also by having a master of ceremonies the bride and groom are able to relax and enjoy the activities without having to worry about a schedule.
At the wedding I attended, while I have to give the MC credit for the light hearted moments which made us all laugh, it was obvious that this person was not comfortable speaking in front of 200 guests.
So unless there’s someone that is very good at talking to and entertaining a public audience, and that person actually wants to do this task, then why not look at alternates for the MC. If the MC’s strength is organizational skills, keep their public speaking duties to a minimum and let them go with their strength. Or if your wedding is smaller and more casual in nature, you can even consider not having a MC and inform the guests of the flow ahead of time.
Wedding Planning – The Speeches
Like the MC from the recent wedding that I was a guest – the speeches, while sincere, were painful to listen to. Sitting there, I could feel the nervous energy from what seemed like an endless number of speakers. Of course, I congratulated all of them on a superb job which seemed to please them. But let’s not kid anyone, no one from this wedding would be going into a career in public speaking. However, it was during these painful speeches that I realized I had an article in the making. Why can’t wedding planning still capture the traditional elements without having to have a room full of visibly terrified people.
If it’s important to keep the speeches in the ceremony, consider some alternate ways for them to be done. Once example would be to have the speeches pre-recorded. Most people, including professionals, are more comfortable talking to a camera than a room full of people. Plus, you can do as many takes as necessary to get it right. The wedding planning committee or wedding planner can layout some guidelines ahead of time. Make the speeches a theme, something that is near and dear to the bride and groom.
Wedding Planning – Throw the Traditional Wedding Planning Checklist Out
The one things that often gets overlooked in wedding planning is the actual personalities or strengths of the wedding party. A good planner will always want to meet the party and review everyone’s likes and dislikes. There may be roles better suited for some of the party that wouldn’t work for the others. There’s nothing wrong with switching the order of the speeches – or even who delivers them. Things will come across more natural when tasks are assigned based on the personalities of the people involved.
Everyone pretty much knows how YouTube works today. So why not incorporate it into your wedding planning. This is one way to keep traditional elements intact having to call upon your wedding party to perform outside of their comfort level. It’s also a great way to incorporate a format for your out of town guests to participate in the big day.
A wedding is one of the most important and memorable day for the bride and groom – not to mention their families. An important thing to remember when starting the wedding planning is to do it for you, not because you think it’s the right thing to do. Why not make everyone relax and have fun – your wedding party and the rest of us attendees will thank you for it.